My First Step

I had a very emotional, exhausting, and draining weekend. I experienced a shocking, and yet-not-so-shocking, encounter during a meditation session that I tried to accomplish with my ex-abuser/ex-husband. However, through this “unexpected episode” which I will post later, I have found my true calling. I have had an eye opener, an AH-HA moment.

I have awoken from a very deep sleep of denial.

But before I begin to send my emotions and thoughts into journal form, I have decided to send some very important facts your way, facts about an issue very close to my heart ~ Domestic Violence.

Domestic Violence

  • Half of all married women in the United States are physically abused at some time in their marriage.
  • One in 10 teenagers will be involved in a violent dating relationship before graduating from high school.
  • A woman is beaten every 10 seconds.
  • Domestic violence is the most under-reported crime in the US.
  • Domestic violence cuts across all socioeconomic backgrounds, regardless of race, religion, or level of education.
  • Battering often occurs during pregnancy.
  • 10 women a day die at the hands of their husbands or partners.
  • Every five years the number of women in the US who die at the hands of their partners is equal to the number of males who died in the Vietnam War.
  • Abused women comprise 20% of all women presenting injuries in hospital emergency rooms.

Please remember that these women and children need our help. They need our voice. They need us to help protect them and their children. These woman are in a situation that they feel is no turning back. This is the end. I was there. I understand.

But, this isn’t the end.

chained-hands1.pngThis is only the beginning. We need to help them realize that there is life after abuse. That life out there can be beautiful and safe. They need to know that there is light at the end of this horrific path.

We need to let them know that they can SURVIVE. I need to let them know they can survive. Why? Because I survived. And if I can be a survivor, than anyone can be a survivor. We must all help. We must all stand together to help stop Domestic Violence. We must all stand together and be Mothers Fighting for Others.

I hope you join us.

Tracy Etheridge Sig

5 Responses to “My First Step”

  1. B. Brown June 13, 2007 at 1:41 pm #

    Your statistics (which no doubt came from your local gender-feminist led women’s center are so blatantly false that if they weren’t so seriously flawed one could laugh. Yes, many women suffer domestic violence at the hands of men. But many men (google search for facts) also suffer domestic violence at the hands of women.

    Ask your local women’s center or a member of the shelter industry what the statistics are on lesbian battering. They appear to be equal to that of heterosexual batterings. But isn’t domestic violence used to control and oppress women in the patriarchy? So I guess lesbian battering shows another rad-feminist myth for what it is.

    How about the battering of children. Most experts agree that it is carried out more often by mothers and other women. Where are your stats on that?

    (Is Oprah your new Godess?)

  2. headmutha June 13, 2007 at 2:23 pm #

    B.Brown: Tracy is writing from her own experience. She is a survivor of both child and spousal abuse. This is what she knows. Just because she is writing about her life, does not negate the facts of Lesbian and Violence against men. Just because she wrote this one post, does not mean she/we don’t know or understand the abuse that goes on elsewhere.

    This is one post. A post about her experience, about her survival, and about her awakening. And because she has had this awakening, her passion now is to help others who are going through the very same things she has gone through her entire life.

  3. Roxy June 13, 2007 at 4:16 pm #

    Tracy ~ Thank you for calling attention to this widespread issue. Thank you for being willing to speak of your own awakening.

    B. Brown ~ (and those who may agree) Any time I see “statistics” quoted, I realize that those numbers may be a bit skewed due to the phrasing of the survey that generated them. I also recognize the issues are much, much deeper than any single, and simple post can possibly convey.
    However, the issue at hand is that abuse of any kind, any nature, any source, should not be tolerated – each of us has our own experiences, our own ways of looking at the world… Tracy’s post was her own voice. And your comments were yours.

    I can’t speak for the other women here, but I can speak for myself – the sole reason I am here, the single reason that I have written, the only purpose in using my “voice” in this forum, is the honest hope, the genuine belief that even my small contribution can and will make a difference in this world.

  4. tracy5 June 13, 2007 at 8:21 pm #

    B.Brown ~ Thank You for bringing to my attention my error in not linking to the website where I received my statistics. I have gone back and edited my post with a link to the website Mutual Ground, which is a shelter providing a wide variety of services for Domestic Violence and Sexual Assult. Please, feel free to check it out.

    I would also like to thank you for visiting Mothers Fighting For Others and leaving your comment on my post.

    However, I am writing from my own experiences. I am writing with the hope of using my “voice” to help others who are in the same situation that I was once in. Whether they be male, female, heterosexual, lesbians, african americans, whites or children. That doesn’t matter to me. I have awaken from a deep sleep of denial that has lead me on a journey to help those in need. It has become my passion to now help make a difference in the world. I am hoping that my experiences will lead others to know that they to can Survive.

  5. damewiggy June 25, 2007 at 11:11 pm #

    Your blog is incredibly inspirational. Your personal efforts, even more so. Thanks for sharing it all.

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