There Is No “I Can’t”

I work for our very own Rocky Turner’s husband Jeff, and in a meeting he explained to us how there is no “can’t” at their house. Any time an “I can’t” shows up, it’s held up against a “What would it take to make this possible?” It sounds simple, but that’s a life changing question right there.

Read it again: “What would it take to make this possible?”

Although I’m getting better, my natural self-esteem setting is Low. I push down my own ideas before anyone else can ever see them. I don’t like that about myself and want to change it — I certainly don’t want my kids to do that to themselves. Isn’t it funny how we can see a world of possibility in our kids, but ignore it in ourselves?

I trust Jeff and Rocky and I loved the idea of knocking over all the “I can’ts” that I throw in my own way. I’ve been surprised how quickly the “I can’ts” seem to have gotten fewer and farther between. Once you start imagining possibilities instead of throwing up roadblocks, it’s amazing the things you can accomplish.

This is one of the best gifts I’ve ever received.

I’m passing it on. Just for today, any time you think you can’t do something, make yourself think about what it would take to do it instead. Maybe it would take a little more work, time or money. Maybe you’d have to be a little bit braver. Maybe you just need to try it, and see if you CAN. I bet you’ll feel so much better with your new possibilities that you’ll want to think about what’s possible tomorrow, too.

Maybe you’ll look back a couple months from now and realize how much you got done when you quit telling yourself you can’t. Maybe it really isn’t that hard to change the world. I wonder what it would take to make it possible …

Sarah Sig

8 Responses to “There Is No “I Can’t””

  1. Kim Wood October 11, 2008 at 3:43 am #

    Thank you so much for sharing this, Sarah! The Turners are full of wisdom and we’re lucky you shared this nugget.

    I’ve tried to teach my kids ‘no I can’t’ but I forgot to give them an alternative! Love the ‘What would it take to make this possible!’

  2. Chris Griffith October 11, 2008 at 3:53 am #

    That needs to be on a bumper sticker.

    A gift is only a gift when someone receives and accepts it. Imagine all the people that will not accept the idea to make things possible.

  3. Susie Blackmon October 11, 2008 at 3:57 am #

    When I look at my bills today, I will remember “What would it take to make this possible!”

  4. Jackie, Mortgage VA October 11, 2008 at 4:34 am #

    Sarah, I was so touched by your statement of wanting something better for your children.

    Sometimes the most powerful statements are so simple, and this is truly a powerful question: “What would it take to make this possible?” I’m writing it on a post-it note and putting it on my computer right now.

    Thanks for sharing!

  5. Sandy Shealy October 11, 2008 at 7:30 am #

    WOW… talk about paying it forward! This was written for me today. Well said, Sarah. Kudos to the Turners for making a difference in people’s lives. Offering the next step… “What would it take to make this possible,” is much better than my Mom’s saying, “I can’t never did anything,” which was the end of the discussion. Thank you!

  6. amysalisbury October 12, 2008 at 3:49 am #

    Thanks for sharing, Sarah! Positive attitudes and the ability to look at a difficult situation from a stance of “What would it take to make this possible,” is the way to better solutions to our problems. I will try to remember this and pass it on!

  7. Kathy McGraw October 15, 2008 at 2:36 pm #

    Sarah- This is a lesson I learned in the Army…it’s so easy to give up when things are difficult. I love that saying…..it fits perfectly with a Solutions based mentality.

  8. Lola October 16, 2008 at 5:38 am #

    Thank you Sarah. We can’t ever afford to stop remembering the power of this message…Not now, not ever. We Can, it’s our Choice.

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