The Definition of Being a Girl…

Personhood is not a thing to take for granted. There are so many kinds of expectations which are determined to intrude on this elemental right of human existence. And that’s what makes the task of becoming an authentic self so challenging.

One of the most significant gifts my parents gave me was their refusal to pigeon hole my development as a person. I use the word person because while they fully loved the fact that I was a girl, my worth or potential was never based on my gender.

Living in a cultural context which had rigid ideas about what girls did and did not do or become, their actions as they raised me made them pioneers. I was never told that I could not study a certain field, play certain games or aspire to certain goals because I was a girl. Nor was I ever pressured to find a husband or pretend to be dumb so as not to intimidate the guys.

I had to go outside my home to learn that these things were issues that girls face all the time. In fact, all over the world, girls are denied the right to learn to read and write, forced into sexual activity at a young age and told to put their dreams on hold. All for one thing…just because they are girls.

That’s why I love this video that I came across on the Internet a couple of days ago. Girl power is not about one upping boys or burning our bras. It’s much bigger than that. Girl power is about changing the way the world thinks about what works.

It’s about showing that one fully empowered girl who becomes a woman of strong internal fiber has the ability to not only rock the cradle but renew transformational change in our world.

So, here’s to every single girl who knows that her special place on the planet is one worthy of every unique aspect of her body, soul and spirit. And that regardless of the labels her current circumstances might dictate…Girl-power cannot be defined within the limitations of any culture, race, creed or religion.

It’s just too big!


6 Responses to “The Definition of Being a Girl…”

  1. HeadMutha August 12, 2008 at 7:00 pm #

    Simply Powerful.

  2. Amy August 12, 2008 at 7:38 pm #

    Your thoughts always touch me. AMAZING!! The video was full of power and inspiration!

    I could not agree more!

  3. Lola August 12, 2008 at 7:57 pm #

    Rocky, Thanks for everything…including helping me put up the video.

  4. Lola August 12, 2008 at 7:59 pm #

    Amy, Appreciate your comment. I’m struck by how different the path to true change is. The power of a small, focused action which gets to the real target has infinite potential. That’s what I love about the video.

  5. rebecca August 14, 2008 at 8:13 am #


  6. Tanya Donohue(kidzrajoy) August 14, 2008 at 8:16 am #

    Powerful and wonderfully written.Thank you for this read.

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